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It wasn't until my date questioned me about what type of cancer I’d had that I realised how embarrassed I was about making the disclosure.
It may have been bad timing but swiftly after telling him my cancer was in my breast, he up and left.
‘Since then I have had several relationships, and I’m now living with my partner.
Initially I was terrified about the prospect of intimacy with a new partner and what they might make of my surgery.
But after the breakup of my marriage shortly before my diagnosis, I missed being close to someone.
‘Once I was on the date I realised it was inevitable my cancer diagnosis would come up in the conversation – the treatment was a big part of my life for almost a year.
‘He was lovely and said these words I’ll never forget: "I love you for you". ‘After my reconstruction I eventually got the courage to take my bra off and bare my scars and imperfections.
In fact my partner celebrates my “magic breast” as without my surgery I would not still be here.
Who better to help you navigate the world of dating after a breast cancer diagnosis than the women who’ve been there themselves? He said it wasn’t an issue for him and he still wanted to take me out. Four months later we are still together and very much in love. Get to know someone a little and pick the right moment to tell them.
Clair was diagnosed with breast cancer at the end of 2014, aged 38. This time I wanted to meet a man who would get to know me before I told him. We chatted daily for hours, getting to know each other. ‘When he asked me for a date I decided he had to know, so I started typing the message while in a flood of tears. The anxiety became intense when I saw ‘Typing a message’ flash up on my phone. Dating sites do work, just be patient.’ Penny, who was diagnosed at 52 in 2014, worries about the right time to tell potential partners about her cancer. Friends urged me to try online dating but when is the right time to let someone know that you only have one breast?
‘I get annoyed when people say it won't matter if I meet the right man.
I know of women in stable and happy relationships who feel shy about their ageing bodies.